sandchip
Well-Known Member
Eric, I don't know what to tell you other than that I'll be putting you and your daddy in my prayers. Mama has Alzheimer's and doesn't even know me anymore. No big deal though, because I still know her. I looked after her for years and it damned near killed me, but in reality, she was as good a patient as one could ask for. When I told her we had to go here or there, no problem whatsoever, which is a rare trait in dementia sufferers. Heck, she was the best mama anybody could ask for. In the mid 70s, she was working as librarian and assistant city clerk back when I first started collecting bottles, and would track down every bottle book she could find at other libraries, and bring them home to me. I would've never known about all the great glass out there if not for her, so the least I could do was to look after her long as I could.
Anyway, you have to sorta feel your way along in figuring out what tactics work with the individual, and I wish you the best of luck. If you have any siblings willing to help, that should make it easier. I have a brother and sister, but never got a lick of help out of them. It was always, "I never hear from you, so I figure you've got it under control." I felt that if they'd've come around once in a while, they could've seen that the grass needed mowing, or dishes, laundry, or cooking needed doing. When it needed doing, I just did it. I didn't have time to call them and see when it might be convenient for them to stop by and help. Hell, Mama would have starved or been stinking using that method of sharing the load with them. What's bad is that my brother works at a plant here in town, 4 days on, 4 days off. And here I was, trying to keep things together with my wife and kids at home, run a business and look after Mama. Rough on the nerves!
PM me for my cell number if you need to talk. I can at least listen and maybe offer what worked in my situation.
Anyway, you have to sorta feel your way along in figuring out what tactics work with the individual, and I wish you the best of luck. If you have any siblings willing to help, that should make it easier. I have a brother and sister, but never got a lick of help out of them. It was always, "I never hear from you, so I figure you've got it under control." I felt that if they'd've come around once in a while, they could've seen that the grass needed mowing, or dishes, laundry, or cooking needed doing. When it needed doing, I just did it. I didn't have time to call them and see when it might be convenient for them to stop by and help. Hell, Mama would have starved or been stinking using that method of sharing the load with them. What's bad is that my brother works at a plant here in town, 4 days on, 4 days off. And here I was, trying to keep things together with my wife and kids at home, run a business and look after Mama. Rough on the nerves!
PM me for my cell number if you need to talk. I can at least listen and maybe offer what worked in my situation.